John is American 🇺🇸, he is 65 years old and has recently retired. For years, he has dreamed of spending part of the year in France 🇫🇷, enjoying the French way of life, sitting at a terrace ☕, a good glass of wine 🍷 in hand, and chatting in French with locals.
But there is a problem. Every time he tries to speak French, people reply to him in English ❌.
Yet, he has a A2/B1 level, he understands simple conversations, he can express himself, but French people don’t even give him the chance to speak. With every attempt, he feels this frustration building up 😤: how can I practice if no one lets me speak?
Les conseils aident. Une vraie méthode donne des résultats.
Construis une habitude orale avec de la structure, de la flexibilité et de la vraie pratique chaque semaine.
Commencer à pratiquerAnd that’s exactly the question he asked me by email. Today, I will tell you John’s story and how he managed to get the French to speak French with him.
💡 Enthusiasm... then frustration
When John arrived in France, he was thrilled 🤩. He had set himself a clear goal: to practice his French at every opportunity.
First day, he enters a bakery:
- John: "Bonjour, je voudrais une baguette, s’il vous plaît." 🥖
- The baker: "Sure, do you want anything else?" 😐
- John insists: "Euh… non, merci. C’est tout."
- She hands him his baguette with a kind smile but continues in English: "That will be 1.20 euros."
John walks out, puzzled 🤔. He wanted to speak French, yet he was immediately answered in English ❌.
He did not give up. The next day, he enters a café ☕, orders in French. Same scenario.
On the third day, he tries with a neighbor in the street. Same thing.
At that point, he starts asking himself questions:
- 🤨 Is my accent too strong?
- 🤷♂️ Do French people not want to talk to me?
- 😞 Do they think I’m bad at French?
He feels stuck. He is in France, but he has no real opportunities to practice his French.
🔍 The realization
John refuses to give up 💪. He starts doing research: Why do the French always switch to English?
He comes across several forums where other learners share the exact same frustration. He watches videos, reads articles… but no solution seems truly effective.
Then, during his research, he stumbles upon a video that catches his attention: 📺 "20 essential phrases to speak French with a native"
Curious, he clicks and starts watching 🎧.
He takes notes 📝, repeats some phrases out loud. The more he watches, the more he thinks:
"That’s what I’m missing! I need to structure my sentences better from the start to show that I want to speak French!"
At that moment, he decides to send me an email.
"Bonjour, my name is John. I love France and visit regularly. I have a A2/B1 level in French and I want to improve, but I have a huge problem: whenever I speak French, people reply to me in English. How can I convince them to speak to me in French? I really want to practice, but it’s frustrating. Do you have any advice for me?"
I read his email and decided to reply with 5 concrete strategies he could apply immediately.
And that’s where his journey towards more natural and fluent French truly began.
📢 The Strategy Shift
After reading John’s email, I immediately understood his frustration. He makes an effort to speak French, but people don’t even give him a chance to practice.
So, I sent him a detailed response with concrete strategies to apply right away.
1️⃣ Understanding the Situation and Context
John thought that the French refused to speak French with him because they found his level insufficient. But in reality, it’s not at all a question of level, it’s often a matter of context.
Employees in restaurants and stores are working. Their goal isn’t to help customers practice French but to be efficient and quick.
💡 Tip: Avoid overly touristy places 🏨. Instead, go to **small bistros** or **neighborhood restaurants**, where staff are less rushed and more open to having a conversation.
2️⃣ Making It Clear from the Start That You Want to Speak French
The French often switch to English out of politeness or because they think they’re being helpful.
💬 From the start of the conversation, he had to set expectations clearly by saying:
- 🗣️ "I prefer speaking in French, even if I make mistakes."
- 💬 "I want to practice my French, do you mind?"
This simple change made a huge difference.
3️⃣ Showing That He Understood French
If your conversation partner thinks you don’t understand well, they will automatically switch to English to make things easier for you.
💡 Tip: Use small reaction phrases in French:
- "Ah yes, I see." 👀
- "Okay, I understand." ✅
- "Yes, that makes sense." 🔄
And even more spontaneous reactions like:
- "Oh really?" 🤔
- "Wow, interesting!" 😮
